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that：寻找人生追求经历的四个阶段( 三 )


第四阶段
The fourth step, which builds on all the previous ones, is a final turning away from the self, back toward an integration with other people and with universal values.
前面各步骤都已臻至圆熟 ，第四步才能展开 ， 这是最后一次脱离自我 ， 认同他人及宇宙共同的价值观 。
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In this scenario building a complex meaning system seems to involve focusing attention alternately on the self and on the Other. Not everyone moves through the stages of this spiral of ascending complexity. A few never have the opportunity to go beyond the first step.
这套建立复杂意义系统的过程 ， 说来好像注意力会不断在自我和他人之间转来转去 。 并非每个人都能沿着这个复杂性渐增的“螺旋梯”爬到顶 。 一小部分人永远停留在第一阶段 。
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The number of steps is irrelevant; what counts is that most theories recognize the importance of this dialectic tension, this alternation between differentiation on the one hand and integration on the other.
From this point of view, individual life appears to consist of a series of different “games,” with different goals and challenges, that change with time as a person matures.
Complexity requires that we invest energy in developing whatever skills we were born with, in becoming autonomous , self-reliant, conscious of our uniqueness and of its limitations. At the same time we must invest energy in recognizing, understanding, and finding ways to adapt to the forces beyond the boundaries of our own individuality.
Of course we don’t have to undertake any of these plans. But if we don’t, chances are, sooner or later, we will regret it.
阶段的多少并不重要 ， 重要的是 ， 大多数理论都承认个体与团体的对峙 ， 以及独特化与整合不断交替发生的重要性 。
从这个观点来看 ， 一个人的生活包含一连串不同的“游戏” ， 代表不同的目标与挑战 ， 会随着个人渐趋成熟而改变 。
复杂性需要我们投注精力 ， 培养与生俱来的技巧 ， 学习 自制 与自立 ， 意识到自己的独特与极限 。 同时 ， 我们也需要投注精力去认识和了解个人疆界之外的力量 ， 并设法与之配合 。
当然我们大可不理会这些事情 ， 但如果不行动 ， 多半的情形下 ， 你迟早会后悔的 。
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