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Are you aware of how your mind reacts to failure? You need to be.
你清不清楚你是怎么对应失败的？你应该清楚 。
Because if your mind tries to convince you you re incapable of something, and you believe it,
因为如果你的头脑告诉你 ， 你不能做成什么事 ， 而你相信了的话 ，
then like those two toddlers, you ll begin to feel helpless and you ll stop trying too soon, or you won t even try at all.
你就会像那前两个小孩似的 ， 开始感到无助然后你很快就放弃了 ， 甚至都不去试一下 。
And then you ll be even more convinced you can t succeed. You see, that s why so many people function below their actual potential.
然后你就更加确信你成功不了 。 你看 ， 这就是为什么那么多人都无法充分发挥他们的潜能 。
Because somewhere along the way, sometimes a single failure convinced them that they couldn t succeed, and they believed it.
因为不一定在什么地方 ， 有那么一次失败让他们认定了自己不能成功 。
Once we become convinced of something, it s very difficult to change our mind.
我们一旦被某件事说服 ， 往往就很难改变主意 。
I learned that lesson the hard way when I was a teenager with my brother.
我十几岁的时候 ， 和我哥哥一起 ， 吃了点苦头才明白这道理 。
We were driving with friends down a dark road at night, when a police car stopped us.
有一天晚上 ， 我俩和朋友们在一条很黑的路上开着车 。 一辆警车把我们拦下了 。
There had been a robbery in the area and they were looking for suspects.
附近发生了抢劫 ， 警察在追踪嫌犯 。
The officer approached the car, and shined his flashlight on the driver, then on my brother in the front seat, and then on me.
警察走到车边 ， 对司机晃了晃手电筒 ， 又照了照坐在副驾驶的我哥哥 ， 然后照到了我 。
And his eyes opened wide and he said, "Where have I seen your face before?"
他瞪大了眼睛说得 ， “我在哪儿见过你？”
And I said, "In the front seat."But that made no sense to him whatsoever, so now he thought I was on drugs.
我说 ， “副驾驶座上 。 ”但对他来说 ， 我的回答莫名其妙 。 所以他认为我嗑了药 。
So he drags me out of the car, he searches me, he marches me over to the police car,
于是他把我拖出车子 ， 又搜了我的身 ， 他把我押到警车那儿 ，
and only when he verified I didn t have a police record, could I show him I had a twin in the front seat.
直到他验证了我并没有犯罪记录 ， 我才有机会解释 ， 我和副驾驶座位上的是双胞胎 。
But even as we were driving away, you could see by the look on his face he was convinced that I was getting away with something.
但是直到我们开走了 ， 你仍可以看到他的表情 ， 他认定我一定干了什么坏事 。
Our mind is hard to change once we become convinced. So it might be very natural to feel demoralized and defeated after you fail.
一旦我们认定了的事情 ， 我们很难改变看法 。 所以当你失败了 ， 感觉士气低落是很自然的 。
But you cannot allow yourself to become convinced you can t succeed. You have to fight feelings of helplessness.
但是你不能允许自己相信你不可能成功 。 你要和那种无助的感觉斗争 。
You have to gain control over the situation. And you have to break this kind of negative cycle before it begins.


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