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But we do that with psychological injuries all the time. Why? Because of poor emotional hygiene.
但是我们经常如此对待心理伤害 。 为什么？由于糟糕的心理保健意识 。
Because we don t prioritize our psychological health. We know from dozens of studies that when your self-esteem is lower,
因为我们不重视心理健康 。 很多研究表明 ， 如果你的自尊心低落 ，
you are more vulnerable to stress and to anxiety; that failures and rejections hurt more,
你就更容易感到压力和焦虑 ，失败和拒绝会伤害你更深 ，
and it takes longer to recover from them. So when you get rejected,
你也需要更多的时间复原 。 所以如果你被拒绝了 ，
the first thing you should be doing is to revive your self-esteem, not join Fight Club and beat it into a pulp.
首要的事情是应该重新激活你的自尊心 ， 而不是去拳击俱乐部打拳来发泄 。
When you re in emotional pain, treat yourself with the same compassion you would expect from a truly good friend.
当你在经历感情上痛苦 ， 像一个真正的好朋友那样同情你自己 。
We have to catch our unhealthy psychological habits and change them.
我们需要改变不健康的心理习惯 。
And one of unhealthiest and most common is called rumination. To ruminate means to chew over.
最常见又最不健康的习惯之一就是穷思竭虑 。 就是事后反复咀嚼回味一件事 。
It s when your boss yells at you or your professor makes you feel stupid in class,
比如你的老板冲你发脾气了 ， 或是教授在课上让你感到愚蠢 ，
or you have big fight with a friend and you just can t stop replaying the scene in your head for days, sometimes for weeks on end.
或是你和好朋友吵架了 ， 然后你不断的在脑海里回放当时的情况 ， 好几天 ， 甚至好几个礼拜都不停 。
Now, ruminating about upsetting events in this way can easily become a habit, and it s a very costly one,
反复回味不愉快的事很容易变成习惯 ， 而这个习惯代价很大 。
because by spending so much time focused on upsetting and negative thoughts,
因为当你在不愉快和负面的事情上花这么多时间 ，
you are actually putting yourself at significant risk for developing clinical depression, alcoholism, eating disorders, and even cardiovascular disease.
你把自己放在一个非常危险的境地 ， 可能诱发抑郁症 ， 酗酒 ， 饮食失调 ， 甚至心血管疾病 。
The problem is, the urge to ruminate can feel really strong and really important, so it s a difficult habit to stop.
问题在于那种反复回味的需要会变得非常强烈 ， 非常紧迫 ， 所以这种习惯会很难打破 。
I know this for a fact, because a little over a year ago, I developed the habit myself.
我知道事实如此 ， 因为就在一年多以前 ， 我自己就经历了这个习惯 。
You see, my twin brother was diagnosed with stage 3 non-Hodgkin s lymphoma. His cancer was extremely aggressive.
我的双胞胎哥哥被确诊为三期非霍奇金淋巴瘤 。 他的癌症来势汹汹 。
He had visible tumors all over his body. And he had to start a harsh course of chemotherapy.
全身都有看得到的肿瘤 。 他要做一轮大剂量的化疗 。
And I couldn t stop thinking about what he was going through. I couldn t stop thinking about how much he was suffering,


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