职场英语学习|双语| 弱点更能展示个人魅力——美丽凌乱效应( 五 )


无论是工作还是约会 , 在一段有历史的、互惠分享的关系中表现出脆弱似乎是最安全的——而且两人之间的关系也会随着彼此弱点的暴露而增强 。 然而事实上 , 关于脆弱并没有什么真正的安全可言 , 但这正是一段特殊关系的开始 。
When someone shares his hopes and anxieties on vellum paper, or admits to a mistake, or professes love to a friend at a café, that person is doing something risky, but the possibility of being hurt helps open the door to a more genuine, intimate interaction. Things might not work out in the person’s favor, but there’s still something rare and, indeed, beautiful about the gesture.
当有人分享自己的愿望和焦虑 , 或承认错误 , 或者在咖啡馆里对朋友表白时 , 他/她其实是在做一些冒险的事情 , 但受伤的可能性有助于开启一扇更真诚、更亲密的互动之门 。
“Many of us feel like we’re barely keeping it together,” says Candy Chang, the artist who created A Monument for the Anxious and Hopeful with her partner, James A. Reeves. “But seeing some private corner of your psyche reflected in somebody else’s handwriting on a wall can be incredibly reassuring. It’s a reminder of the humanity in the faces around us.”
艺术家张凯蒂(Candy Chang)和搭档詹姆斯·里维斯(James A. Reeves)设计创建了一座焦虑和希望的“纪念碑”: “我们大多数人都不愿意展示自己的脆弱 。 但是在别人写的纸片上看到自己心灵的某个秘密角落 , 会让人难以置信地安心 , 它提醒着我们和大多数人一样 。 ”


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